Don't let the cell phone quietly ruin the child's life!

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I went to my friend Lao Bai's house a few days ago and saw such a scene.

Lao Bai's wife is cooking dinner in the kitchen. The child is crying, but the wife can't open it. She asks Lao Bai to take the child away.

Lao Bai coaxed the child to the living room, turned on the TV and let him watch cartoons alone. The child became impatient after watching an episode, and said, "Dad, I want to play games on your phone."

Lao Bai was a little angry: "Why are you playing games again?" After hearing Lao Bai's words, the child was aggrieved and could not help crying again.

Lao Bai was so annoyed by the child's crying that he took out his mobile phone, opened the game screen, and handed it directly to the child.

as soon as the child got the phone, he immediately stopped crying and began to play in high spirits.

I asked Lao Bai, "he is only 6 years old. Do you often play games on your child's mobile phone?" Not afraid of hurting your eyes? "

Lao Bai said helplessly, "I know it's bad, but he can't do it without giving him his cell phone. There's really no other way to let him play games and stop for a while."

it is not convenient for me to meddle too much in the family affairs of my friends. After thinking about it, before I leave, I still remind Lao Bai:

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even if the child is more troublesome and annoying, don't let him form the bad habit that he can play games on his mobile phone when he cries.

really, don't let your cell phone quietly ruin your child's life.

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Lao Bai is not alone. In life, too many parents handle their children's mobile phones in the same way. It is worth noting that parents give their children mobile phones for more or less the same reasons.

parents are too tired at work, and they still have to take care of their children when they get home. If they are powerless, give their children a mobile phone and let them play by themselves. Parents can also take it easy.

parents can't handle crying children. after giving the mobile phone to the child, the child can calm down and the parents can breathe a sigh of relief.

parents have their own things to do, and their children's noise will distract them. after giving their children a mobile phone, parents can concentrate on their work.

indeed, parents work hard and have a lot of family chores when they get home. They are busy and tired, and it is really troublesome for their children to cry.

but can the child really stop when the parents hand over the phone easily and relieve the temporary predicament?

parents who have experienced it know that giving mobile phones to their children is a bottomless pit.

whenever there is a situation of "the child gives the phone to his parents if he wants it", he will feel as if he has tasted the benefits.

from now on, as long as you don't give him your cell phone, either the baby cries constantly, or the aggrieved look softens your heart, or the child's temper becomes more and more grumpy.

at that time, parents will still feel: how this child loves to play with his mobile phone more and more! The child's eyesight has declined again! The child is getting more and more difficult to control! It's the phone!

in the final analysis, no matter how many reasons there are, they just want to steal the laziness of parents and let mobile phones act as "electronic nannies".

do not think about the reasons behind the child's crying, do not accompany the child attentively, because giving the child's mobile phone is far easier and more comfortable than these ways.

when parents regard their children as a task they have to take over, rather than a genuine responsibility, how can they think about what is a good way to educate their children?

however, mobile phones are a "chronic poison" for children who have no sense of self-control. When the child can't get rid of the "toxicity", it's no use for parents to be anxious.

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in April 2018, the news "10-year-old Bear spent 50,000 dozen game anchors" attracted widespread attention. The child's mother said that the 50,000 yuan was his father's funeral expenses and his own life-saving money.

netizens said that not only the child is not sensible, but also his mother is not sensible.

the child plays with the mother's mobile phone. If the mother doesn't give it to him often, how can the child be infatuated with the game anchor?

the child transfers money using the mother's account. If the mother doesn't tell him the account and password, how can the child give the money out easily?

if you are aware of the problem with the mobile phone from the very beginning and guide the child well, how can the child become so unimportant?

if there is no way to teach children, the fault lies with their parents. Because no one is born evil, if a child is well disciplined from an early age, he will not be kidnapped by a small mobile phone.

in August 2018, a 4-year-old boy became a "tilted head baby" because of "playing with his mobile phone". The doctor said it was the first time he had seen the strange disease, and it happened to a 4-year-old child.

the boy's mother said that because the child likes to play games on his mobile phone, he always lies on the sofa for hours.

the truth is always surprising and angry. Children who are only 4 years old are accustomed to using mobile phones as companions. they play without restraint, and their parents do not stop teaching, or even get used to it. How big is it?.

doesn't the child know how to control himself, and neither do the parents? Do you really have to wait for the child to have a problem before you wake up? it turns out that the mobile phone can really "kill" the child.

some people say that these are just individual cases, but in fact, even the slightest cell phone dependence can do a lot of harm to children.

the blue light of a mobile phone can really hurt your eyes.

Blue light is a high-energy visible light with a wavelength of 400-500nm, which can penetrate the cornea and lens and reach the macular area.

long-term exposure to blue light will lead to various problems, such as eye fatigue, dry eyes, astringent eyes, eye distension, decreased vision and so on. In severe cases, it can also cause damage to the retina, increase macular degeneration and cause cataracts.

in 2018, a research report by the World Health Organization showed that the number of myopia in China reached 600 million, of whichThe rate of myopia among teenagers ranks first in the world.

how many children have set up a pair of thick glasses at an early age.

it is easy to get cervical spondylosis if you bow your head and play with your cell phone for a long time.

if an adult has cervical spondylosis, everyone is used to it. But what if it's a child?

in addition to the 4-year-old boy who just mentioned turned his head into a crooked baby because of playing with his mobile phone, there are too many children under the age of 10, just like the middle-aged and elderly, "hanging their necks".

looking down at the mobile phone, the weight of the cervical vertebra is 3 times that of vertical. If the posture is improper, the weight of the cervical vertebra is up to 27 kilograms, and in severe cases, there will be insufficient blood supply to the brain, or even fainting.

Cervical spondylosis is a chronic disease, as anyone who has experienced it knows, it is difficult to fully recover. Don't let the child's fragile cervical vertebra be hurt by the cell phone early.

the contents of mobile phones are complicated and without correct guidance, children can easily go astray.

what Uncle Fan wants to say is that there are really not a few children who have gone astray because of their mobile phones, and there are a lot of similar news every year.

some children are so obsessed with playing games that they see that people in the game will not die when they jump from a building, so they try to turn themselves over and jump off the windowsill, leaving their mother crying and vowing to sue the game company.

and the child secretly took the mobile phone to send nude photos to the strange opposite sex, which was found by the wife and directly exposed on Weibo, alarming the local public security bureau. Only then did the mother find out that she became the chief culprit to destroy her by compensating for the mobile phone bought by her child because of her busy work.

really, in many cases, children's "tragedies" are not only their own reasons, but also their parents' initial "carelessness", "self-belief", "unexpected" and "discovery".

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so, can't you give your child a cell phone at all?

not. What really affects children is not the mobile phone, but "no sense of self-control" and "lack of correct guidance".

actor Sun Li once said about this kind of confusion: "I only think of playing IPAD and mobile phone when my children are bored, and every time they take them on a trip, they don't want to play them."

in fact, children don't have to play with their mobile phones, they just want to have fun. And fun can be achieved in too many ways.

the following methods hope to help you.

parents lead by example and don't play with their cell phones in front of their children.

Children like to play with mobile phones, to a large extent, it is the influence of the surrounding environment, one is the family environment, but the school environment.

We can't change the school environment, but the family environment can do what we can.

when I get off work in the evening and have a holiday on weekends, I'd rather read than play with my mobile phone, at least not in front of the children.

Children will subconsciously imitate the behavior of adults, and will subconsciously recognize the behavior of adults.

you like reading, children will also like reading; you like to play with mobile phones, children will also like to play with mobile phones.

instead of doing so, parents should start with themselves, control their mobile phone habits and cultivate some really meaningful hobbies.

Don't shut your child at home and often take him out to broaden his horizons.

for children, the happiest thing is to travel, see different scenery and play games that they have never played before. If time permits and financial conditions permit, try to take the children out for a walk as much as possible.

even museums, flower and bird gardens, bookstores, supermarkets and vegetable markets are much better than staying at home.

only when children have more contact with the outside world will they know that there are too many beautiful things in life, which are more interesting than mobile phones.

if you can't spend time with your child because of your parents' work, you can buy him more educational toys to cultivate his hobbies.

such as Lego, watercolor, jigsaw puzzle, nine serial, etc., there are suitable toys for all ages, as long as parents pay enough attention, it is not difficult for their children to quit their mobile phone addiction.

the child really needs to use a cell phone. Set four principles for him.

with the development of science and technology, it is basically impossible to say that children will never be allowed to have a mobile phone.

if the child really needs to use a cell phone, parents should take these four steps in the process of negotiation with the child:

A. Confirm in advance: confirm the rules for looking good on your phone with your child, and tell him which can and can't, and how long he can watch.

B. Remind repeatedly: after the child gets the mobile phone, it is easy to forget the rules and even hide the past by acting like a spoiled child. Parents need constant reminders in the process to make it easier for their children to accept the final move to take away the phone.

C. Resolute implementation: understand your child's reluctance to the mobile phone, do not scold and roar, guide him gently as far as possible, abide by the rules, and then resolutely implement it. Don't just say it without doing it.

D. Timely encouragement: if the child behaves well, he should be encouraged verbally in time. If he behaves well for a long time, he can be rewarded in the form of toys.