The six cheapest behaviors to be a human being
Beautiful morning light, accompany you to read.
the sky is self-exalted, the sea is self-deep, the earth is self-thick, and man is self-righteous.
whenever you do, you should pursue a proper career, follow the right path, and do not have the following price-dropping behaviors.
01
the writer Yishu said:
"face is the hardest thing for a person to put down, and it is also the most useless thing." The more you care about it, the heavier it will be and the more difficult it will be for you to move. "
in order to save face, some people have to pretend to be rich even if they have no money. They get a loan to buy a car and buy a bag and go out with beautiful scenery, but go home with porridge and vegetables and make noodles.
some people do a lot of things beyond their abilities in order to save face. If they can't do it well, they will only bear hardships.
"he who knows others is wise, and he who knows himself is wise."
A person must know clearly how many pounds he or she is.
face is an illusory thing, depending on whether others are willing to give it or not. And dignity is your own inner energy, which can be firmly grasped in your own hands.
only by giving up face and living inside can we pursue a higher life.
02
take advantage of others
in our lives, we often encounter such a scene:
I want to travel to your city in a few days. Will you give me food, accommodation and play?
it's okay for you to be idle at home. Why don't you help my child with his lessons?
many people think that since we are friends and relatives anyway, it should be very easy for you to do something for me for free.
but in this world, no one is born to owe each other. Friends, relatives and family members are not resources that can be obtained blindly and used free of charge.
A relationship will not last long if you only know what you want and don't get anything in return.
Zeng Guofan proposed to the younger generation that "nine do not pay", one of which is: "those who like to take advantage of bargains do not pay."
do not take advantage of people at all, do not take people's money lightly.
those who are greedy for petty gains gain small profits, but lose the hearts of the people.
03
be good at calculating
there is a good saying: "A man can be fine, but not Yin."
some people do not hesitate to hurt others for their own interests and do whatever it takes to achieve their ends.
such people seem to benefit, but the fact is that the benefits they gain are often temporary and will eventually dissipate.
people often say, "insidiousness is the road to the abyss of danger."
all the bad things a person does are actually laying a layer of hidden thunder for his future life. A little spark at any time may detonate his whole life.
in this life, no matter what you do, the most important thing is to live up to your conscience.
04
it is not difficult to find some "two-faced people" in daily life. They are best at "changing their faces", flattering to the top, being arrogant to the bottom, trampling high and low. They "make friends for the sake of profit, and they disperse as much as possible."
Lu Xun once said: "in the face of arrogance, things will go up." those who are domineering and arrogant to their subordinates are bound to flatter and flatter their superiors.
if you treat people who are better than yourself, if you have no bottom line to please and curry favor, you will only lose your dignity.
instead of more false coping and false flattery, it is better to see the real chapter by action.
treat people who are weaker than yourself, if you are arrogant and abusive, it will only make you look humble.
there is a saying in the Book of changes: "A gentleman's hand in hand is not blasphemous, but his lower one is not blasphemous."
those who live nobly have a yardstick in their hearts, neither superior nor inferior.
treat others as if they are above others, and treat themselves as others under others, neither humble nor arrogant.
05
showing off
Life, people who like to show off can be found everywhere.
there are people who like to show off their money and are eager to decorate themselves with external prosperity;
some people like to show off their circle and seem to know who they can become and control what kind of resources they are in.
there are others who indulge in a sense of self-superiority and like to show off their past achievements, but forget to improve themselves.
all this reveals that a person's pattern is not enough and his heart is small.
as the saying goes, "A wise man is full of concealment, but a fool often shows off."
mature people will understand that money is the guarantee of life, not the capital to show off; the essence of the
circle is the exchange of resources, and even if there is unlimited glory around them, it has nothing to do with themselves;
past achievements are all preludes, thinking small and making things big is the eternal way to success.
the depth of the water is silent, and a man is silent. Excellent people, know how to give up flashy, never flamboyant, never arrogant.
06
talk behind the back
behind the back, it shows that a person's conduct is not good, there is no basis for random speech, it shows that a person has no upbringing.
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if you have any dissatisfaction, mention it to your face, it's called "good advice goes against the ear".
if there's anything wrong, just say it. It's called "telling the truth".
if you talk behind your back, you will become gossiping and you will become a villain.
gossip does a lot of harm, and it is said behind the back that people will get into trouble.
maybe you are an unintentional remark. If you are heard by a conscientious person and spread to the ears of the person concerned, it will not only affect your reputation, but also affect your relationship, lose trust and lose contact.
sit still and often think about your own mistakes and gossip about others.
Don't expose others, don't talk nonsense, gossip less, show respect and understanding to others, and accumulate blessings for yourself.